SERVING FAMILIES BEST WHEN THEY NEED IT MOST.
AS ONE OF TORONTO’S MOST SENIOR DIVORCE MEDIATORS I AM PLEASED TO ANNOUNCE THE CONTINUATION AND EXPANSION OF MY MEDIATION SERVICES.
EFFECTIVE FEBRUARY 28, 2018, I WILL NO LONGER BE PROVIDING LEGAL SERVICES.
Here are some FAQ’s and concerns I hear from clients considering mediation:
Separation was not my choice, so why should I mediate?
If you can’t change the reality of the separation, you can still choose the way you will separate.
The course of our lives can change unexpectedly. We can lose our jobs, face health challenges or lose our marriages.
We always have choices about how we respond.
We can barely talk to one another — how can we negotiate face to face?
Negotiation is not mediation. Mediation with an experienced and skilled mediator is about weighing options. In mediation, I continually update possibilities for settlement to take into account your concerns and your hopes. As your mediator, it is up to me to manage the negotiations.
Who will protect my rights in mediation?
The short answer is that all of us protect the rights of all parties to the mediation, including the children.
As mediator, it is my duty to steer you both in the right direction. My decades of experience ensure that you will be guided to stay on the rails. And if there are times when you need the assurance of your lawyer, I will always encourage you to seek that counsel.
Will we talk about our kids?
Your kids are front and centre. Their well-being is the best reason for choosing mediation.
We will do everything we can to make sure your kids’ needs are met. If you want the help of a family professional I will refer you to one of my experts.
How can we deal with complex finances in mediation?
Mediation is about sorting information. All families have a financial history. There are joint bank accounts and credit cards and uncertain incomes. For some there are business interests, complicated corporate structures, tax issues, shares and options, to name a few.
This is where decades of experience pays off. I work with a team of specialists who provide the financial analysis where required. These are the experts who are part of the family law community.
More importantly, I work with a team member who is available to provide financial forecasting of all of the options under consideration. You never have to make a financial decision without understanding the consequences.
What about hiding money?
It is the mediator’s job to make sure you both give mediation your best shot. That means helping you bring your best self to the table. All of your concerns and questions about accounts or investments will be aired. After decades of experience, I have the authority and confidence to make sure both of you understand the consequences of withholding information.
How long will this take?
The good news is that you can decide. It may take some time to gather and collate all of the information we need to start looking at options. Over the decades I have created a resource base of professionals who are both experts in their fields and accountable.
Once we begin the mediation meetings, we work at your pace. We can work a few hours at a time, a day at a time or 2 days at a time.
My mediation service is billed on a block fee, which depends on your choice of meeting options. My long-time experience is that you will be inspired to reach a settlement within the block fee service package. If we need a bit more time, it is available at an hourly rate.
When can we start?
I always try to meet with you as soon as possible to get the ball rolling.
Please contact me.